There comes a time when you decide, do I really want to follow the life that he or she is leading? Do I dare challenge the "norm" ? Jesus challenged the norm every time he had a chance. Because the norm was keeping people from praising and worshiping God. The norm had rules and regulations as to how to do this and how to do that. You had to fit in. So here comes this man Jesus, who said wait hold on. Who are you hypocrites to judge any man? What makes you better then any of them? Of course they defended themselves. The bottom line is this: you do not have to conform to the ways of the world to be part of Gods kingdom. You have to have good intention. You have to put in some work. Nothing is easy. You have to give up self. Know how to put others needs before you very own.
John 20:29 Then Jesus told him, "Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed."